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Lukes Dad's picture
on Sun, 05/13/2012 - 04:20

There is no doubt that for the majority of children removed from their parents for whatever reason, a far greater risk of danger awaits them in foster care. The average child is up to ten times more likely to die in a foster home than in the family home, and the average age of children who die is four and under.

Below are the stories and sites I come across relating to the adoption of children and children in foster care.

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Lukes Dad's picture

Real Foster Care Facts.

Fact: It is more affordable to adopt from foster care. Most child welfare agencies will cover the costs of the home study and court fees, as well as provide post-adoption subsidies.

Fact: In 2009, 69,900 parents had their parental rights terminated by the courts, only 57,400 of these children were adopted.

Fact: In foster care, children will often move as many as three or more times.

Fact: In many cases, foster children are separated from their siblings.

Fact: the average age of children waiting to be adopted in foster care is 8 years old, many of the children over the age of 8 will never find a permanent home.

Fact: 63% of children in foster care are re-abused. The foster care system is taking kids away from parents who may or may not of abused them and handing them to people who abuse them and they are being paid.

Fact: Some foster parents care more about the money they will earn from being a foster parent than the foster child themselves.

Fact: In many states the "age out" for a foster child is 18. On the day of their birthday before midnight, they must leave foster care. Others it can be as late as age 21.

With their suitcase and belongings in hand, but no coping skills or resources to negotiate adulthood and off they go by themselves. In many cases, they end up homeless, incarcerated or institutionalized.

Fact: last year, 29,471 children aged out and left the foster care system without an adoptive family.

mumwhereyabeen's picture

Very good

FACT: Some of us also get our kid back drug addicted and having being molested and raped, suffering trauma or other pd's and JIRT dont care about it cause its a DoCS known case and they have not listened to the parent from the start.

FACT: They all prefer to create a conspiracy and attack on a person/parent because they themselves were sex assault unresolved case and known continuos police failure and abuse cases already, everything gets held against the parent under attack by DoCS, already having trauma is Gold for DoCS.

FACT: No one will help instead of then being a parents fault for abuse it becomes the kids fault and so begins the vicious cycle of abuse by Docs all over again. Just like Biedermans cycle of Domestic Violence these agencies do exactly what they say they do not do and are there to prevent.

FACT: SORRY is not ENOUGH. There is no help for a parent who gets a child back from DoCS and has a problem from them. No funding, no free help and professionals really do not want to be involved when it is DoCS and police and mental health in the wrong. These people never admit to their own failures, as they believe the system is perfect, which is in my little eyes a narcissitic tendancy in a highly diverse professional grouping that are given protection from their crimes against humanity.

Lukes Dad's picture

A 71-year-old man will appear at Picton Superior Court of Justice July 6 for sentencing. He was found guilty Wednesday morning on six of nine counts of sex crimes against two of his former foster children. Jennifer Lester Mulridge photo.

A Prince Edward County man has been convicted of sex crimes against two young girls.

The now 71-year-old man was the girls’ foster-father when the crimes of sexual assault, invitation to sexual touching and sexual exploitation occured.

The victims were around the age of ten at the time of the abuse and are now in their late teens.

The jury this morning acquitted the accused of three charges against him by one of the complainants, but found him guilty on six more charges by the other two girls.

He’ll reappear at Picton Superior Court on July 6 for sentencing.

Mumwhererya's picture

A father has killed a man he caught sexually assaulting his young daughter in Texas.

The incident happened at a social gathering at the family home on Saturday.

According to police the father caught the man in the act of molesting his daughter.

He attacked the man hitting him repeatedly in the head.

The four year old was taken to hospital for observations and was later released.

She is said to be 'ok', despite some obvious mental trauma.

The alleged child molester was pronounced dead at the scene.

Lavaca County Sheriff Micah Harmon said the said the father was "very remorseful" and didn't intend to kill him

"You have a right to defend your daughter," he told CNN. I'll submit it to the district attorney who then submits it to the grand jury, who will decide if they will indict him."

A preliminary autopsy found the man, who has not yet been identified, "died from blunt-force head and neck injuries." 

GO THE DAD!!!!!!

Obviously this guy was operating on a subconscious level. Just goes to show that the human brain actually knows how to deal correctly on its most primal level, with perpetrators of such disgusting crimes.

What a good father! Lets hope the courts dont underestimate what the perpetrator was doing to the mans kid. What a shame that nothing is ever done by the police and courts when we go to them about such destructive and victimising crimes against our kids or ourselves.

I wish my dad had of seen what happened to me when it happened because the vile creature would have met the same fate from a man like my dad, there is no doubt.

Instead I was victimised by DoCS almost 40 years later for a similar act on me as a child, by a DoCS psychiatrist who was assessing me to remove my daughter who was also this same age I was when the crime was committed on me.

My advice is to lie to your DoCS assessor and never ever disclose if you have been sexually assaulted as a child to a DoCS assessor as they then call you a Borderline, (or a multitude of other horrible destructive labels) which is a major human personality defect to a DoCS worker and the AGENCY.

Plus now 3 years after the DoCS trauma I can see they were deliberately retraumatising me and also asking for personal information that was none of their business and stupidly I was honest to them. IT WAS AND STILL IS NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS....

WE NEED TO STAND UP AGAINST THESE MONGRELS by recognising from the minute they come knocking at the door that they are not their to assist or help and that EACH INDIVIDUAL (this means you!!!) HAS A RIGHT TO PRIVACY AND TO LEAVE IN PEACE and FREE FROM ANY HARRASSMENT OR DISCRIMINATION.

When DoCS call JUST SAY NO!!!!!!!!!!

 

 

A father has killed a man he caught sexually assaulting his young daughter in Texas.

The incident happened at a social gathering at the family home on Saturday.

According to police the father caught the man in the act of molesting his daughter.

He attacked the man hitting him repeatedly in the head.

The four year old was taken to hospital for observations and was later released.

She is said to be 'ok', despite some obvious mental trauma.

The alleged child molester was pronounced dead at the scene.

Lavaca County Sheriff Micah Harmon said the said the father was "very remorseful" and didn't intend to kill him

"You have a right to defend your daughter," he told CNN. I'll submit it to the district attorney who then submits it to the grand jury, who will decide if they will indict him."

A preliminary autopsy found the man, who has not yet been identified, "died from blunt-force head and neck injuries." 

Jo's picture

I stumbled across your site (and similar others) as I was doing some research into becoming a foster carer. Since having my daughter my eyes have been opened to how vunerable children are. I was considering becoming a foster carer because I believe that no child should ever feel suffering, hunger, fear or negligect - I thought I could help a child learn to love and trust again. I thought being a foster parent meant being the safe life a child in an abusive situation would hope for. But, after doing some research on fostering - this does not seem the case. It seems as a foster parent, I will simply be helping government agencies kidnap children and hold them to randsom against their pleading parents. A foster child would be ten times more likely to die in my house than living with their own parents. Even if I was the foster parent I hoped to be, there is even a greater chance that when that child was finally settled and trusting again, in the middle of the night that child will be removed from my care with no notice - similar to what happened to their parents. I wanted to be a foster carer - I wanted to help a child in an abusive situation - but I don't think I do anymore.

Lukes Dad's picture

The most a parent can hope for when their child is leggally kidnapped is a good foster carer. With the system overloaded by trigger happy social workers foster carers are at a severe shortage. I saddens me to hear you say this, but the truth is that most foster carers are bullied by the social workers, the same as they bully the children, parents, foster carers children, and each other. Gutless governments will not lift a finger to fix the system.

Lukes Dad's picture

A foster mother blogs about her foster boys who will not be returned to their mother. Everybody involved in handling the case knows the mother will not get them back, but the mother herself believes that by jumping hoops she can do so.

I Don't Understand, or Maybe I do.

Susan

I'm a forty something mother of five who fosters. In order to protect the identity of children I love who may find themselves, through no fault of their own, part of the dependency system, all names and identifying details have been changed.

The little boys that I have right now are doing well and settling in very nicely. They are happy and healthy and secure and really beginning to attach. Good things all. They are visiting with their birth mom pretty liberally, although supervised. She seems to be making progress as well. Unfortunately her situation is such that she is not going to get her boys back. There is too much unhealthiness in her life. Even if she maintains her sobriety, she has way too much other bad stuff and not enough of anything good to parent anyone. I know this. The worker knows this. The judge knows this, as do the attorneys. I'm pretty sure everyone involved in this case knows it, except for mom. Everyone talks about it, but not to her. No one has told her and no one will tell her. Why not? Why not just tell it like it is and allow her to maintain some control over the situation? Why not allow her to relinquish and make some choices about where her boys end up? She could ask for post adoption contact agreement so she could have continued contact. Why let her believe that she is working toward reunification when everyone is just going through the motions? Once they terminate the adoptive family will be advised not to maintain contact. They almost alway advise it in our county regardless of the birth family situation. We have been told repeatedly that contact with Ella's family is not appropriate (and she did ultimately relinquish)

If I admit it, I know why it is this way. It's to protect the county from lawsuits.

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SAN ANTONIO -- Tim Archuleta, 42, was arrested Thursday afternoon on charges of serious bodily injury to his three adoptive children. The children, an 8-year-old boy and two 10-year-old twins were adopted by Tim Archuleta and his wife, Iliana back in February of 2011.

Iliana Archuleta, 40, and her nephew Rogelio Archuleta, 26, were arrested last month in the case. Iliana owns the Honey Tree Preschool and Child Development Center.

According to an arrest warrant affidavit, one of the children told investigators that Iliana and Rogelio beat and starved all three of them. They also said the pair forced the children to bite each other and eat whole sticks of butter. The warrant also stated the children were allegedly forced to sleep in a bathtub or in a locked closet. According to the warrant, one of the children told investigators Tim would hit them on the buttocks with a backscratcher. The document also states the adoptive father knew the children were eating butter sticks, because one child told police, "he would watch us."

"Whenever you have not only a parent or adult in that home, and they're witnessing these kinds of things, they need to put a stop to it immediately," said Lou Antu, spokesman with the Bexar County Sheriff's Department. "He apparently did nothing of it."

All three adoptive children remain in state custody.

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Teenager jumps out of a two-story window to escape foster home

TERRE HAUTE, Ind. -- An Indiana teen was so desperate to escape his foster parent's home, he jumped out of a two story window.

When investigators found the 17-year-old walking down the side of the highway, they soon realized that he had every reason to runaway.

The boy's foster parents allegedly beat the boy and his siblings and ducked taped them to their beds. The parents also reportedly refused to feed them.

Investigators said all of the kids were malnourished.

"I've never seen what's described by these children, and injuries that were sustained in the conditions that they were living in," said Terre Haute Assistant Police Chief Shawn Keen. "I've never seen anything this bad. It's one of the worst probably ever, if not the worse I've ever seen."

The foster parents are now facing charges of neglect and criminal confinement. And those kids are now back in the DCS system where they will be placed in another foster home.

By Jenn Zellers

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A very light Aboriginal baby removed from his mother incorrectly by DoCS at 6 days from Woy Woy; The case worker who incorrectly removed him was sacked as there was no harm whats-so-ever to this child by anyone in his family, and he was not and in any danger.

Since then there have been 12 court cases and NO significant harm nor any harm at all has ever been shown.  12 court cases x 5 lawyers to date and the next court case is due on 28th April.  Over a $1million dollars of tax payers money spent to keep this child from his loving parents and extended family.  

How cruel is this case worker, who sent 950 pages of daily routine from a year at the Red Cross to block the courts and delay the process to have Sheamus returned home.

This is an abuse of our tax dollars; an abuse of the power invested in caseworkers and an abuse of the system removing children and keeping them in care unnecessarily, where in this case there is no threat to him at all.

These resources should be to help children from families who really need it.

This child who is now 20 months old, has no reason to be in forster care  - Sheamus should be immediately returned to his family for good.

HAPPYbeingjustme's picture

Am I going mad or are the suggestions that are made below like looking into a time warp and seeing the 1940's all over again. Where children in care can be placed in adoption with a court ruling. Hey forget who bought them into the world!

Judges call for adoption overhaul – The Australian 28 August

 

THE nation’s adoption laws make it too hard for many of the tens of thousands of children in care to find a permanent new home, Australia’s chief family law judges say.

Federal Circuit Court Chief Judge John Pascoe and Family Court Chief Justice Diana Bryant have called for a re-examination of Australia’s adoption laws. They argue that some of the children in foster care and other forms of out-of-home care might be better off if they were adopted.

Tony Abbott has vowed to overhaul the system to make it easier for Australians to adopt from overseas, raising the issue with state and territory leaders and moving to expand the list of countries from which children can be adopted.

Chief Judge Pascoe said he believed it was time for a fresh review of the nation’s domestic adoption laws.

“Let’s have a look at adoption because there are so many children in care,” he said. “Maybe some of them could be adopted and would be better off being adopted.”

Chief Justice Bryant said Australia’s adoption laws had come down a different path to those in Britain.

“We’ve taken the view in Australia that adoption of children who have parents is a last resort and that children remaining in care is preferable,” she said.

“In the UK, they’ve had a very different approach and with the courts’ permission they’ve allowed adoptions against the objections of parents, where children have been in care for some time.

“They’re starting to change their view a bit and perhaps we’ve been too far at the other end of the spectrum … There’s probably room to move both ­positions.”

Adoption in Australia is covered by a patchwork of state and federal laws. Eligibility rules for would-be parents differ widely regarding partner relationships, age, citizenship and health.

In 2012-13, there were 339 adoptions Australia-wide, ­according to the Australian Institute of Health and Welfare. Of those, only 54 were local adoptions, 129 were overseas adoptions and 156 were “known” child adoptions.

In contrast, there were 40,549 children living in out-of-home care as at June 30 last year — 43 per cent of those with foster carers and 55 per cent with relatives or kinship carers.

The chief judges’ call for a review of adoption laws came as they urged governments to crack down on parents who breached the ban on commercial surrogacy, or to legalise it.

They believe overseas surrogacy arrangements have left women and children vulnerable to exploitation and want commercial surrogacy to be legalised in Australia.

Chief Justice Bryant said the tightening of adoption laws worldwide had helped to fuel the surrogacy boom.

“The constraints around adoption which all the countries to the (Hague Adoption) Convention have put in place does protect children from exploitation in adoption, but it’s meant babies are not really available,” she said.

 

 

 

 

 

Calls grow for reform of domestic adoption laws

 

 

 

LEADING child welfare organisation Barnardos has backed calls by the nation’s chief family law judges for a review of adoption laws to enable many of the tens of thousands of children in care to find a permanent home.

Barnardos chief executive Louise Voigt told The Australian that unstable foster care arrangements were damaging already vulnerable children, with some switching between as many as 20 homes.

She said many of the more than 40,000 Australian children in care would have better outcomes if they could be adopted and have a family for life.

Ms Voigt yesterday welcomed calls by Federal Circuit Court Chief Judge John Pascoe and Family Court Chief Justice Diana Bryant for a re-examination of adoption laws. The judges argued some children in care might be better off if they could find a permanent new home.

“I’m delighted to hear what they said in relation to adoption here in Australia,” Ms Voigt said.

“Children from foster care are grossly over-represented in the criminal justice system, in homelessness, in mental health, early pregnancy. This is a group of children who have been originally abused and neglected in their own homes in a tragic way and we then take them into a foster care system which is totally dysfunctional.”

In contrast, she said families were there for the long haul and that’s what adoption could ­deliver for a child.

Tony Abbott has already vowed to make it easier for Australians to adopt from overseas, including by moving to expand the list of countries from which children can be adopted.

Ms Voigt urged the Prime Minister to turn his sights also to domestic adoption laws, including by pressuring the states to set adoption targets.

She said a significant proportion of children permanently removed by courts from their parents who could not be placed with family members, were aged under three.

Open adoption provided the best of all worlds, she said, because it provided children with a stable home while providing links to their biological family so they still knew who they were.